If you feel uncomfortable asking someone if they are an engineer before going on a date, are there any ways of finding out? As you are about to discover, there are some "giveaways" that you may, indeed, have an engineer in your sights.
Or you could just ask them? They'll happily tell you anyway.
What is Tinder?
Tinder, in case you are not aware, is a dating app that was launched in 2012. It is primarily designed to match single people based on mutual interests and other metrics to ensure that there will definitely be "chemistry" between them.
At least that's the theory.
"Tinder is the world’s most popular app for meeting new people. Think of us as your most dependable wingmate—wherever you go, we’ll be there. If you’re here to meet new people, expand your social network, meet locals when you’re traveling, or just live in the now, you’ve come to the right place. We’re called “the world’s hottest app” for a reason: we spark more than 26 million matches per day. How many dating apps do that?" - Tinder.
Since its inception, more than 30 billion users have matched on Tinder.
How can you be safe on tinder?
- Check out your date on social media. One of the great things about Tinder is that it links with your Facebook account, so you can easily see if you and your swipe share any friends.
- Wait before you meet up.
- Don't share your number or other personal information.
- Always meet up in a public place.
- Tell a friend.
How do you find out if someone is an engineer on social media?
So, without further ado, here are some ways you will be able to tell if someone on social media, like Tinder, is an engineer without directly asking them. Trust us when we say the following are not exhaustive and are in no particular order.
1. It's actually pretty simple, they will (usually) tell you!
According to a 2018 article by Insider, engineers are "hot property" for many girls users on Tinder. This was revealed thanks to Tinder's development of their "Year in Swipe" feature.
This feature takes a bird's eye view of the application's user data for the previous year. What was interesting for 2018, was that women's top match preference was for potential partners with the tag "engineer" on their profiles.
Of course, this relies on them being completely honest about the fact.
Men, on the other hand, seemed to prefer potential partners with the tag "adventurer" in theirs.
"The data will help inform what's working for Tinder users and will also provide insight on how to be unique and stand out from the crowd," said Dr. Darcy Sterling, Tinder's dating and relationship trend expert.
The same year, Tinder also released its "Top Picks" feature. This is a premium piece of content that allows users to have the ability to sort potential matches using tags. It was this data that Tinder used for its "Year in Swipe" data analysis.
Interestingly, women's other top tag choices were a three-way tie. "Athlete," "model," and "lifesaver" were women's other tag choices. For men, "lifesaver," "model," and "doctor" followed after the top "adventurer" tag, respectively.
2. Their profiles may never/rarely be used
Engineers tend to be more insular than other people. When it comes to social media sites you may find that engineers rarely, if ever, post, comment or like things on social media.
They will probably also show complete disdain for or lack of interest in popular culture. Their profiles and descriptions (if completed) will probably not mention any of the hottest "trends" on Netflix, for example.
Of course, this is more of a personal trait rather than for all engineers per se. That being said this could be a good sign that they pay little or no attention to the daily malaise of social media.
It could also just mean that they are very busy people, of course.
3. Or they argue (selectively) on social media
On the other end of the spectrum, you may find that someone who is particularly argumentative or pedantic on social media is also an engineer. But that is not to say that they argue for no particular reason.
Arguing with engineers is widely considered an ordeal for many. That's because they only engage in battle when they are confident of the facts.
This tends to mean that their ego is involved. Engineers will also tend to be efficient with their arguments.
Logic will tend to form the main foundation of their position, and they will readily exploit any weakness, or perceived weakness, in an opponent's position. "Facts over feels" for want of a better phrase.
But far from being a wholly-combative experience, engineers are merely arguing about the subject at hand, it is never meant to be personal. For best results simply open up a debate with them and turn an argument into a discussion.
You might be surprised where the conversation leads you.
4. They may try to shoehorn in a spreadsheet or two
If you've made a match with an engineer (who randomly hasn't tagged themselves as such) on Tinder, another way to find out if they are an engineer is when you come to deciding on a dating destination. As nothing, in their view, can be left to chance, they will probably attempt to make use of a spreadsheet to find the best option.
Of course, we are being a little hyperbolic, but you may become frustrated with their insistence on overplanning and researching potential destinations. This might be a "red flag" that you do, indeed, have an engineer on your tail.
5. They don't do "small talk"
And finally, if by the time you start to chat with them they haven't told you they are an engineer, this is another sure sign they are probably are one. Engineers, generally speaking, despise "small talk".
They prefer to talk about ideas and concepts rather than gossip or engage in other "small talk." Most tend to avoid it like the plague, or generally aren't very good at it.
You'll quickly gain an appreciation for this form of conversation and may even find it refreshing.
But, at the end of the day, instead of just divining if they are an engineer, why not just ask them? They won't be offended.